Not all princesses dress in pink. Some play in bright red socks that stink, blue team jerseys that don’t quite fit, accessorise their look with a baseball mitt, or a sparkly crown! Girls are forced into stereotypes of pink, sparkles, tutus otherwise are considered tomboys; but it is important to remember princesses come in all kinds.
According to Wikipedia, a tomboy is a girl who exhibits characteristics or behaviors considered typical of a boy, including wearing masculine clothing and engaging in games and activities that are physical in nature and are considered in many cultures to be “unfeminine” or the domain of boys. Just because there is a Wikipedia entry, doesn’t mean we have to subscribe to it.
Some girls climb trees
Some girls wear dresses
Some girls climb trees while wearing dresses
Girls will be bold
Girls will be extraordinary
Girls will be anything they choose to be!
Don’t define your daughter by how she chooses to play and don’t call girls boys (or boys, girls). If she wants to paint her nails and then jump in the mud, let her go for it. If she wants to pull her hair in a ponytail and eat a cheeseburger, let her do it. If she wants to collect bugs, talk to them, name them, and set them free, let her! Let her do all of these things and know that she is a girl. Don’t do any of them and know that she is still a girl. Let her be herself.
Wear lipstick, play soccer, have friends that are girls, have friends that are boys, eat bacon…or salad, watch romantic comedies or action movies, wear pink or wear blue.
None of it matters.
She. Is. A. Girl.
NOT… a tomboy
Girls can jump in mud puddles and climb trees, play sports and make messes – all while wearing their tutus and tiaras! Not every girl has a passion for pink, when I became pregnant, I was thrilled to discover we were bringing a beautiful baby girl into the world. I dreamily envisioned ruffly dresses, tea parties, shopping, sleepovers and bows.
However, ruffles and frills just weren’t in the cards for our little girl Ava. She has been obsessed with dinosaurs, Spiderman, trains, monster trucks, Lego and getting messy for as long as I can remember! There has been the odd tutu fascination, doing a pirouette, tea parties and playing with dolls; but is quickly replaced with building, designing and working out how and why things work – and that’s OK!
I am reminded that she doesn’t fit the stereotypical girl mould every time we walk by the little girl’s toy aisle at our favourite department store. The aisles are filled to the brim with Barbies, babies, and princess dresses, which are not her only interests. More times than not, she darts past these overtly pink aisles and makes a beeline straight for the ‘boy toys’. However, I don’t apologise for my daughter’s uniqueness. I don’t need to apologise for who she is. She is a well-rounded and active little girl who wears dresses but also likes to climb trees, play with trucks in the sandpit, play ball and build / design / create, and it’s okay to be different. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go round. I accept that my daughter doesn’t fit the mould. My daughter is not like your daughter, and my daughter is not like your son. She is unique, as all children are unique individuals.
Her birthday party themes to date have been jungle, cowboy / western, dinosaurs, Octonauts and coming up soon – The Very Hungry Caterpillar; so, as you can see, pink and frills don’t always happen here, and that is OK, because, princesses come in all kinds.
My daughter Ava is definitely not the stereotypical little girl but, let’s face it, who really fits those one-size-fits-all stereotypes anyway. She marches to the beat of her own drum. She is her own little person, and I love her for it. You see, I have always been a rule follower and a “go with the flow” gal.
Princesses come in all kinds, let them run, dance, invent, discover, laugh, dig, build, pretend and PLAY.
Let her be herself. She’s an individual who doesn’t care what others think, and I hope she never changes.